Overcoming Imposter Syndrome to Find Your Happy with Kim Adele
Edited on 14. August 2020
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome to Find Your Happy with Kim Adele – My interview with Nat Schooler for Influential visions podcast on overcoming imposter syndrome.
In this interview on Overcoming Imposter Syndrome to Find Your Happy with Kim Adele – We answer the following questions:-
I noticed you have worked at Board Level in FTSE 250s, you were Head of Sales for Sage and Ops Director at Barclays and am really interested to learn more about you, what you do now and what drives you?
Why does positivity matter to you?
What is your personal “positive superpower”?
These are just some of the questions that Kim-Adele answered: –
Imposter Syndrome
Why do people get it?
Bullying, people telling us what we should do in life.
How do they move beyond it?
How do they avoid relapsing?
We received so many questions from our Facebook audience and Kim did her best to answer them all. We hope you derive some insights from this highly informative interview.
Mike: How do you cope with it and what do you do to elevate your self-esteem?”
Terri: How do you stop it from stealing your enjoyment when you achieve something you’ve worked hard at and it keeps telling you it was too easy, you didn’t earn your stripes getting it and you don’t deserve it?
Jason: Is there an existing explanation from the field of psychology for this? Is it related to feelings of guilt or lack of confidence or feelings of inadequacy or knowing it wasn’t earned or possibly something else? Likely a lot of overlap.
Mike: If imposter syndrome simply means inferiority complex.
Terri: How do you stop it from stealing your enjoyment when you achieve something you’ve worked hard at and it keeps telling you it was too easy, you didn’t earn your stripes getting it and you don’t deserve it?
I am suffering with it enormously at the moment with the growing success of Shadow Man and people wanting my autograph and interviews etc.
Jo: How do you address your students’ questions about imposter syndrome when you suffer from it yourself?
Henry: Why does the impostor syndrome only hit when we do something we really really care about. And not when we’re say? Doing the dishes.
Proma: Every time I battle the syndrome and get back to the game and start doing well, I soon fall back into it. It’s seems like a cyclical phase. How do you combat that? How do you make staying out of the syndrome phase more permanent?
Stu: That should be a good one! Ask him how it is he knows so much about impostor syndrome, made me smile!!
Louise: I knew a woman who was very successful. She was the founding editor of a famous magazine. She was always concerned that “they” will find out how incompetent she was.
Jason: Such a relevant and common thing we all suffer from most of the time. I guess “how do you cope with it and what do you do to elevate your self-esteem?”
In the past and being someone that works alone and at home it’s been contributing to open-source, attending meet-ups and events and realising that you ARE valued.
Lauren: How do we teach our kids that it doesn’t take passing an exam to equate to intelligence yet they are conditioned towards that way of thinking every day at school and by society.
Shamir: How do external factors (family, friends) & past experiences play a part in IS and how can one address this to move forward.
Andrzej: Why does it seem to only affect those who are actually qualified to be where they are, not the fakers and pretenders?
Lisa: I suffer from Impostor Syndrome and have to battle with it every day, it isn’t easy to deal with. I would be very interested in her insights as I’m giving a talk on this subject for European Digital Week next month, I’d love to know from her what she thinks could be done to stop bullying and how to deal with bullying, it is due to bullying that my impostor syndrome is so high. I’ve been bullied, harassed and abused not just at school but through my entire life, and it has been worse in the workplace than it ever was for me in school. Yet nothing seems to be done about it.
I’m in the cybersecurity industry and I can honestly say I’ve had nothing but support for what I do from other men in the industry, yet I’ve been on the receiving end of some awful bullying, harassment and abuse from other women in the industry.
Amanda: There is an interesting link between women and ethnicity and imposter syndrome, I would ask to what extent does paternalism and patriarchal cultures affect someone with imposter syndrome and how can people navigate a white male-dominated work environment for example for a positive outcome in their careers? 🍀💙
Ize: How can you gain confidence to get out of it and not relapse?
Chris: What is the opposite of Imposter Syndrome …?
If you didn’t get your question answered then please contact Kim Adele via her website or on LinkedIn.
You can also get Nat Schooler here
And you can listen to some more helpful episodes here on Imposter Syndrome
Originally posted on influential visions